As a recent contributor to MN United For All Families (I gave
$10), I am now a part of their e-mail list. Their latest email, entitled
“Family,” began with the statement:
Nothing says ‘family’ like marriage.
The email then featured the story of the Retain family. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYxvkL6CAWQ&feature=youtu.be
Below is my open letter:
protect Minnesotans’ freedom to marry. However, I am quite disappointed
with your latest email.
fraught institution. To say that it is the only legitimizing force in
relationships invalidates strong relationships and commitments and those
who are passionately non-partnered. Additionally, it silences the
importance of alternate families that many LGBTQ people (and especially
youth) form as a means of creating a safe support network. Family means
so many things beyond marriage, and communities within the larger LGBTQ
identity spectrum are a part of that (particularly drag performers).
represent a very diverse group of people with many different approaches
to and experiences with both marriage and family. A triggering and
silencing message is one that I hope was not intended, but whose impact
must be acknowledged.
but not at the expense of marginalizing those within our community.